In the Twin Flame and Soulmate Grief Support group, people who’ve lost their twin flame often bring up the feeling of an overwhelming desire to join their partner in death. It is described as a magnetic pull or lure towards their loved one on the other side. This article discusses what causes this feeling and how to deal with being faced with broken heart syndrome and “the window.”
Explore the overwhelming desire to join a deceased twin flame, a metaphysical phenomenon akin to broken heart syndrome. This “window” lasts 3-6 months post-loss, inciting an energetic pull towards the deceased. Survivors often experience deep longing, but with support and practices like energy healing, they can choose life and continue their twin flame mission. Resources like the National Mental Health Hotline offer assistance for those struggling.
Twin Flames and Broken Heart Syndrome
When someone shares a deep connection with a person who has passed away, it’s not uncommon for the surviving person to be overcome with a magnetic pull towards them in spirit.
The act of someone’s soul energy leaving their physical body and crossing over into the spiritual realm creates an energetic window where it’s more likely for the surviving partner to die. When this window opens, the person feels a deep inner longing to be with their loved one.
The powerful feeling to follow them to the other side is a symptom of this window opening. The good news is that this window does not stay open for long—about three to six months after their partner’s death. But while it is open, the lure towards the other side is very real. The soul is given a choice to follow through, or to stay on earth and continue living.
The Window Opening After a Twin Flame Dies
When a twin flame dies, the surviving partner has the option to live and continue their time on earth, or to join their loved one on the other side.
The energy transmission of their late partner’s spirit crossing over into the spiritual realm opens a metaphysical window. In the time span that the window is open, the surviving partner becomes more sensitive to their psychic abilities, subtle bodies, and energy.
The effects are manifested as a deep desire to follow their partner over to the other side. This is the biggest symptom of the window being open.
While it sounds macabre, it is simply the metaphysical effects of the transmission of soul energy being manifested emotionally, mentally, and physically in the surviving partner.
The connection between the two partners continues to be felt after death. Through this connection, the love between them transcends the physical world.
This “window” opens after their passing from the energy transfer of their life force into spirit. Because you are so deeply connected to them at higher levels beyond the physical level, you feel the tug of this transition. It might feel like a sense of anxiety or nervousness that you’re more likely to get into an accident or something happen to you to die. Or it could feel like a sense of longing, like you’re incomplete and want to be with them on the other side. This could just be your grief. Your intuition will tell you if it’s really a call to go home into spirit.
If you or someone you know is facing feelings of leaving this world, please contact the National Mental Health Hotline at 866-903-3787 or SAMHSA’s National Helpline at 1-800-662-HELP (4357).
Death by a Broken Heart is Very Real: Broken Heart Syndrome and the Widowhood Effect
According to Harvard, takotsubo cardiomyopathy, sometimes called stress cardiomyopathy or broken heart syndrome, is a temporary changing of the heart muscle triggered by intense emotional or physical stress that inhibits its ability to pump blood.
In a 2016 study, women ages 55 to 64 years old died at a faster rate due to heart disease brought on by takotsubo cardiomyopathy within the first week of widowhood when compared to married women in the same age group.
Other studies have shown that people in their 60s and older who’ve lost the spouse that they’ve spent their entire lifetime with have a higher likelihood of dying in the near future after their loss.
On average, a person is 50% more likely to pass away within six months of their spouse’s death. This is sometimes referred to as the Widowhood Effect.
Surprising Statistics:
- Losing a Spouse Makes Men 70% More Likely to Die Within a Year – Time.com
- Surviving spouses have a 66% higher risk of dying in the three months after their partner’s death – The Daily Mail
- The death of a wife was correlated with an 18% increase in mortality for men while the death of a husband was correlated with a 16% increase for women – University Hospitals
- Older people who have lost a spouse have an increased risk of dying… this risk is highest during the first three months following the death of a spouse. – Verywell Mind
Comparing Broken Heart Syndrome to The Window of a Twin Flame’s Passing
Seniors have lived a fuller life than the average twin flame. Their life purpose has been realized, more-so than a twin flame who’s under the age of 60. The concept of dying to follow their late partner in death should be viewed from a different perspective: twin flames have a different motivation for living.
Twin flames or twin souls may enter into a marriage with a soulmate and choose to be with their twin flame later in life after their marriage concludes (i.e., divorce), whereas the people who’ve died from broken heart syndrome or the widowhood effect have typically spent their whole life with their spouse.
Also, people in a twin flame relationship understand the concept of soul connections. They are aware that soul energy extends from one’s higher self, to soul monads, to incarnations aka fragments or personalities. Their belief that they can find their loved one in another incarnation or a neighboring soul monad fuels their will to live.
Even still, twin flames are only human and are susceptible to feeling the effects of the energy channel that’s formed when their counterpart crosses over to the other side.
After my twin flame died, I felt this window open. The option was there for me to make the choice to join my twin flame, Greg, on the other side. But I didn’t want to leave my young daughter. It took extra intention and a conscious effort to ensure I was signaling to the universe that I wanted to remain here on earth and finish out my incarnation. The opportunity for me to join Greg in Spirit was there for about a month or two after his passing.
The Surviving Twin Flame is Here to Live
Twin flames are here for a purpose. We are here to raise the frequency of the world and bring higher love to those around us, through the personal development and transformation brought on by our twin flame journey.
That said, it is important that twin flames choose to cling to life and take steps to shield from the energetic pull they may feel while in a state of pain and grief over their loss.
How to Protect Yourself from The Broken Heart ‘Window‘:
Because this window is energetic in nature, there are energetic (metaphysical) precautions you can take to protect yourself, such as:
- Energy healing
- Chakra balancing
- Shadowwork
- Grounding
- Crystal healing
- Reiki
- Spirit communication (working with your guides)
- Physical nutrition (e.g., eating an alkaline diet to ensure proper gut health; the source of your intuition and brain-heart-gut health)
- Clearing the mirror
- Meditation
These practices will help shield you from the negative effects when this window opens. It will keep you grounded and more in your body. Your soul will be more aligned with your physical being, rather than with your spiritual self in Spirit. In other words, you will be more inclined to stay here on earth and less prone to an accident or fatal heart condition.
The window is only temporary. Once you make it through the first six months or so, your decision will be solidified and you won’t have to worry as much about leaving this world.
Remember, it is a conscious decision to live. It is your freedom of choice to uphold your will to live. You’ve got so much more to give!
Advice for Dealing with The Pain of Losing Your Twin Flame
Reader Question:
“my twin flame passed almost 6 months ago and ive been rotting. im so miserable i’ve contemplated going with her. i know i can’t, but i really hate that nobody i talk to truly understands the depth of our relationship. she wasnt just my best friend she was my world and shes literally my other half. i guess i joined this to see if theres anybody who can understand the pain of losing a twin flame. im so serious like the only person who really understands is her mother and even then she seems to be doing a lot better than i am. idk.”
Hi Anonymous,
I am sorry for the physical loss of the woman who was so deeply connected to you… Please know that you are not alone in what you’re feeling. Others have gone through the emotions you’re experiencing and have been all too close to the “window” that opens after losing someone they’re tied to. The energetic “window” where the veil thins and they are given a choice to follow them home or not… It’s similar to the “heartbreak syndrome” that affects older people who’ve spent 50+ years of marriage together. The surviving partner has a significantly higher chance of passing away within 6 months after the death of their spouse.
However, you are not old and gray. You still have a life to live out here on earth, in which you fulfill the goals of Twin Flames: break karmic cycles, clear the baggage, and strengthen yourself to strengthen your union with her. Choosing to take matters into your own hands and will only hinder those goals and harm your union. Making that choice would fragment your soul even more than it already is. This hinders you and the progress of your Twin Flame mission–the purpose you’ve been put here and blessed with the opportunity to experience earth with her for. This choice would affect your Higher Self, the part of you that exists in Spirit (or “5D”) alongside of hers. It’s the REAL you. Not this iteration of yourself in this incarnation, if that makes sense…
I highly recommend diving into the healing process. Now that she’s on the other side, her spirit is going through a healing process. You can compliment that by healing your side of the connection. It’s the best way to counter the lonely, misunderstood, disconnected feelings that seem to be haunting you.
Sending you much love and healing for your journey.
With Love,
Lisa
Resources to Cope with Grief
If you’re struggling with grieving your twin flame or wondering how to go on living after their death, here are some helpful resources with advice, guidance, and support:
If you have thoughts of harming yourself or are struggling with the will to live, please reach out to a qualified mental health provider or call the National Mental Health Hotline at 866-903-3787 or SAMHSA’s National Helpline at 1-800-662-HELP (4357).
I just wanted to write that this really resonates with me
I lost my hugh just over 6 months ago and the pull to be with him has been so strong
When he died I broke, I felt my heart and soul shatter. I longed to be with him but knew I couldn’t leave my daughter.
My daughter and him are the reasons I’ve stayed. His signs and love have kept me battling on plus all the mediums (15)
I am now on a new path one of spiritual awakening and he is here with me every step of the way
I now know it was contracted before birth. We our following our path together. One on each side of the veil
When looking at your protection I’ve realised I’m already doing most of that and it’s definitely helped and I would recommend others to do the same