Twin flames are a popular topic of conversation these days, but there are many misconceptions about what they are and what they represent. In this article, we will explore some of the most common misconceptions about twin flames, as well as some truths about these deep and profound relationships. We’ll also offer some tips for navigating a twin flame relationship if you find yourself in one.
Here are the twelve popular misconceptions about Twin Flames and the truths about these misbeliefs:
| # | Misconception | Truth |
|---|---|---|
| 1. | I am not in union with my Twin Flame if we are not together. | I am always connected with my Twin Flame, even if we choose not to be together or if they pass away, because separation is an illusion. |
| 2. | The Twin Flame journey ends when we break up. | Your mission as a Twin Flame applies even if you’ve parted ways or haven’t met them yet. |
| 3. | Twin Flame relationships are romantic in nature. | Your Twin Flame will take whatever role reaches you best in this life. |
| 4. | Meeting my Twin Flame is love at first sight. | You may know your Twin Flame for a period of time before the journey is activated. |
| 5. | Twin Flames relationships are perfect and “meant to be.” | Not all Twin Flames are here for physical union. The relationship is designed for growth and alignment, which can be challenging. |
| 6. | Your Twin Flame completes you. | You are already whole. |
| 7. | Only 1 person can be your Twin Flame. | Your Twin Flame’s soul has many fragments or personality segments that can incarnate in more than one person. This is usually very rare and occurs in situations like walk-ins. |
| 8. | Twin Flames can only incarnate three times. | There is no set number of incarnations for Twin Flames. |
| 9. | Twin Flames that are in union are on their final incarnation. | There is no set timeline of incarnations for Twin Flames. |
| 10. | Twin Flames cannot have past lives together. | Twin Flames can share past lives together. The Twin Flame journey may or may not have been activated. |
| 11. | An age gap, zodiac sign, and DM/DF energy can mean they’re my Twin Flame. | Circumstances do not validate whether you are Twin Flames. Twin Flames do not fit into a box of predefined traits or characteristics. |
| 12. | If my partner dies, it means they were not my Twin Flame. | There is a special wave of Twin Flames who experience the loss of their partner. |
Misconception #1: I am not in union with my Twin Flame if we are not together
The Truth: I am always connected with my Twin Flame, even if we choose not to be together or if they pass away, because separation is an illusion.
The illusion of separation causes many of the popular misconceptions about Twin Flames, such as the common misbelief that you must be in a relationship with your Twin Flame to be in union.
First, being with your Twin Flame is not necessarily the goal. You have a greater mission of leading the world from “unconditional love” to “universal love” and transcend the 3D paradigm matrixed ways of life.
Second, due to the higher dimensional nature of this type of soul connection and being forever bonded by the silver cord at the Higher Self level, you are always in union with your Twin Flame. You do not need to be physically near your counterpart to use your heightened energetic abilities or work the steps of the Twin Flame journey.
Third, separation is an illusion. Though Twin Flames know that separation is an illusion, it is often forgotten over time. We become warry with the ways of the world and begin to listen to our mental/emotional definition of separation, over the spiritual one that says that separation is an illusion.
There’s even a stage in the Twin Flame journey called the separation stage, in which the two partners part ways after being in a relationship for a period of time. Much of the spiritual work is done while in this stage. Mirroring is huge with Twin Flames, hence why it can be difficult to make that relationship work. But the mirror effect exists to show you what you need to heal within yourself. The separation stage gives the time and space to resolve it. Despite its title, the separation stage is designed to show you that physical proximity has no barring on your bond. You are always connected to your Twin Flame.
Twin Flame past-life regression sessions will often focus on the “seed point.” That is, the first point in their soul’s journey together where they fell victim to the fallacy of separation. This could be a lifetime they shared in which they were forced to be apart, such as a husband in East Berlin and a wife in West Berlin that could not be together as a result of the Berlin Wall in the 1960s. They felt the pain of being separated from one another in the 3D material world. The distress from this experience was so immense, it caused them to forget their infinite connection in spirit and on metaphysical levels. Let’s say this couple had another lifetime in the 2000s. Today, they could be plagued with issues of abandonment and trauma left unhealed. Finding their “seed point” in the 1960s could help them to identify this pain in their current life, so that it can be healed and they can return to their bliss of feeling what it was like before the soul-crushing pain of thinking they could ever be separated.
Misconception #2: The Twin Flame journey ends when we break up
The Truth: Your mission as a Twin Flame applies if you’ve parted ways with your counterpart or you haven’t met them yet.
You can be in Union even if you’re separated or if they didn’t incarnate in this lifetime. Union means to be in union on more than just the physical level. There’s the mind, body, spirit, emotion, and soul levels you can be bonded in. Since the 5D exists outside of space/time, then that means that you always exist there. You and your Twin are together right now in Spirit, where your soul’s Higher Self resides. This is why it is possible (and important) to do energy work with your counterpart at this level. Even if the other person isn’t aware that you’re doing this work, the healing you can perform will have great benefits on both of your lives.
Misconception #3: Twin Flame relationships are romantic in nature
The Truth: Your Twin Flame will take whatever role reaches you best in this life.
Another common misconception about twin flames is that they are always romantic partners. This is also not true. Twin flames can be friends, family members, or even spiritual teachers. The most important thing is that they have a deep and profound connection with each other.
The truth is, romantic Twin Flame partnerships are one of the rarer relationships. Twin Flames can be platonic in nature, depending on what will be most effective for you. Not everyone is here for romance, no matter what the societal expectation tries to make us believe otherwise.
Misconception #4: Meeting my Twin Flame will be love at first sight
The Truth: You may know your Twin Flame for a period of time before the journey is activated.
If you laid eyes on someone and thought, “love at first sight,” this might not be a Twin Flame connection. Most of the time, both parties do not recognize each other instantly. The Twin Flame journey is activated in divine timing. There may be lessons to learn or karma to balance before both partners awaken.
Misconception #5: Twin Flames have perfect relationships and are “meant to be”
The Truth: Not all Twin Flames are here for physical union. The relationship is designed for growth and alignment, which can be challenging.
Boy oh boy, are Twin Flame relationships far from perfect! The true statement is: Twin Flames have tumultuous, roller-coaster relationships. Because of the similarity in frequency and expansion of consciousness along the way, these relationships are more difficult than most could ever imagine. There are stages the couple goes through before entering into a successful Union. If they get this far, their journey will have been well worth it, as they achieve a higher state of love.
There is a misguided sentiment that because Twin Flames share a soul connection, they’re “meant to be” together in physical connection. This is simply not true. Not all couples are fated to complete all stages of the journey. Some will remain separated, while others will come together after time apart. Either way, they are always connected–tethered together, energetically. Some people are capable of carrying out their purpose by establishing the connection with their Twin Flame, then going their separate ways because this soul tie goes beyond the limits of separation.
Your Twin Flame will always want what’s best for you. This is true for their Higher Self, but here on earth, we have so many things that weigh us down. This causes people to run, chase, separate, and repeat… Stuck in their karmic cycles and patterns. Your Twin Flame is triggering these things within you so that they can be healed; so that the cycles can be broken.
Misconception #6: Your Twin Flame completes you
The Truth: You and your counterpart are already whole.
“The power of Twin Flame partners gets amplified when they come together. The two people’s energies merge to create something greater than the sum of its parts.
This means your individual sense of self is critical for your relationship’s dynamic. Both you and your partner must realize that internal healing cannot come from external sources: the love and assurance you desire come from within.
Looking to your Twin Flame for inner fulfillment is something that’s founded in fear—the fear of what would happen if you had to look internally for fulfillment, if you had to face yourself and dive into the depths of your soul to become comfortable with yourself, and if you released the expectations of how your Twin Flame relationship should unfold. It’s a fear-driven attempt to control the relationship rather than letting it flourish and thrive organically.
The Twin Flame journey teaches the importance of knowing that you are whole and complete just the way you are. ‘Home’ is found within you, not within your partner.”
Excerpt from Rebirth: The Spiritual Evolution that Reunited Two Souls by Lisa Arrington
Misconception #7: Only 1 person can be your Twin Flame
The Truth: Your Twin Flame’s soul has many fragments or personality segments that can incarnate in more than one person. This is usually very rare and occurs in situations like walk-ins.
While only one soul can resonate your energy and be called your Twin Flame, that soul has many fragments or personality segments that you can experience across your lifetime. This is usually very rare and occurs in situations like a walk-in soul.
There is only one soul who shares your same frequency and is your Twin Flame. However, because a soul has more than one incarnation, your Twin Flame may appear as a walk-in. There are also “false Flames” and multiple types of soulmates, so knowing if someone is your Twin Flame requires trust in your intuition and spiritual exploration to confirm. You will always know in divine timing.
If you think about it, your Twin Flame has been many different people over the course of your incarnations and the duration of your greater Twin Flame journey. Part of the mission of this type of soul bond is for us to expand beyond loving someone for their temporary physical self and learning to cherish them for who they are in spirit.
Could you imagine loving another person as much as you love your Twin Flame? Shift your perspective. Learn to love from who you are in spirit. Learn to recognize a person’s heart (their energy blueprint, their life force, their chi), and not their body, which takes different forms over their soul’s evolution.
Misconception #8 and 9: Twin Flames can only incarnate three times and Twin Flames that are in union are on their final incarnation
The Truth: There is no set number of incarnations for Twin Flames.
Some people believe that Twin Flames are only incarnated three times. This may be true that we have three main lifetimes that we’re working the Twin Flame journey, but it doesn’t mean you haven’t had other lifetimes with purposes outside of this. So, no, there is no evidence that you’re limited to three incarnations.
While some people may be in their last incarnation, that is not true for everyone. Souls are more complex than we realize, so boiling it down to “all Twin Flames in Union are in their last incarnation” is ill-guided. We are each here for different purposes and our souls may have different paths to follow.
Because there is no set number of incarnations for Twin Flames, and because every lifetime will have different goals and purposes, we cannot definitively say that Twin Flames in union (such as who have been married for 10+ years) are in their final incarnation together.
Having a successful physical union with your partner does not mean you’ve completed all the lifetimes in your journey.
We cannot backwards engineer your number of remaining lifetimes based on if you’ve chosen to be in union or not. Being in union does not mean that you are necessarily farther along in your journey. For instance, there might be another couple who is more spiritually mature than you and your partner, but who choose to stay primarily in the separation stage because their personalities don’t require in-person contact to continue progressing in their journey.
Some spiritual workers believe that Twin Flames only share a finite number of incarnations together, in accordance with the Twin Flame mission. For instance, in the first incarnation together, you are both growing and learning, and may not even be aware when you cross paths. In the next incarnation, you and your Twin Flame form a bond in that lifetime, but either it’s not romantic or there are problems in the relationship. In the third and final incarnation, you are meant to be in a romantic relationship with the goal of physical union and reaching the “surrender” stage. This belief system restricts Twin Flames to three incarnations together. Those who believe this idea also believe that if you share multiple past lives with someone, then you are soulmates because Twin Flames cannot have that many lifetimes together. However, soul connections are complex, and our souls are elaborately intricate in how they function and the possibilities this presents.
Misconception #10: Twin Flames cannot have past lives together
The Truth: Twin Flames can share past lives together. The Twin Flame journey may or may not have been activated.
Some people believe that if two souls have shared past lives, that they are not Twin Flames. To these people, I question if they really understand Twin Flames—a soul connection that’s designed to break paradigms and shift our perspective of what’s possible? The special bond of Twin Flames is not limited to such restrictive thinking.
It is possible for Twins to share previous lifetimes, though they don’t always play the role of their partner’s Twin Flame.
Twin Flames can incarnate in multiple lifetimes together, acting as any other soul who has a soul contract with you. It does not mean you are always on the Twin Flame journey together, necessarily, because each lifetime has a different purpose. Some lifetimes have karmic purposes and do not have the main focus of progressing the Twin Flame evolution.
Sometimes, we play supporting roles in our counterpart’s other lives to help them fulfill karmic obligations or learn a new lesson.
For instance, in one lifetime, my Twin Flame was my young sibling in Ancient Rome. Another lifetime, we were best friends when I died around age 10 or 11 and it devastated my Twin to be helpless as I died from lack of being able to afford medical care. However, we also shared at least one lifetime as romantic partners in the Native American times. We were partners, but I was unable to bear children. Tribal customs stated it was normal to take up a concubine, since procreation was important to society then. I recall my heart breaking — our relationship was never the same. We remained in the same tribe always around one another until our deaths at the end of our long lives. If you are on the Twin Flame journey, I encourage you to do past life regression work, whether with an accredited Regression Therapist or through guided meditation resources available for free.
Misconception #11: An age gap, zodiac sign, and DM/DF energy can mean they’re my Twin Flame
The Truth: Circumstance does not validate whether or not two people are Twin Flames. Twin Flames are limitless and do not fit into a box of predefined traits or characteristics.
Twin Flames cannot be validated by age difference, zodiac signs, or number of years spent together. Twin Flames correspond to the soul level. Souls do not know age, earth astrology, or time.
Some people believe that Twin Flames are characterized by a gap in their and their partner’s age. The information about Twin Flame age differences is conflicting, which lends evidence that Twin Flames are not bound to any specific range in age:
- According to a study by TwinFlameStages.com, the most common age gap between twin flames is 1-5 years, with 25% of twins falling into this age gap range. The next most popular age gap is 6-10 years, with 22% of twins falling into this age gap range.
- According to TwinFlamez.net, roughly 50% of twin flames have an age gap of fewer than 7 years and 20% have an age gap of over 10 years.
In short, because Twin Flames is a soul concept and souls know no age, there is no age restrictions for Twin Flame partners.
The zodiac sign of Gemini has often been called the Twin Flame sign, since this constellation is represented by two twins. However, Pisces could also be considered the Twin Flame zodiac. It represents two parts of the same system with its two fish. The fish have something that the twins do not: The fish are eternally tethered by a metaphysical cord that ties the two halves together. The fish also symbolize the dualistic nature of the universe and, as the twlevth and final sign in the zodiac cycle, Pisces coalesces the lessons of all 11 signs that come before it.
A case could be made for all zodiac signs being “the Twin Flame sign”–proof that if two people have similar placements in their birth chart, that they are Twin Flames. But Zodiac signs are 3D paradigm beliefs and are characteristics of our earthly world. Twin Flames are so much more than a matrix-level label or 3D relationship, and cannot be bound to such concepts.
The same can be said for numbers. Some say that 11:11 is “the Twin Flame number.” They might beleive that if they met their partner on 11/11/2011, they are automatically Twin Flames.
This soul bond breaks the mold of what’s possible. It cannot be characterized by generalized labels and symbolization. You have to look at deeper context than physical representations and synchronicities to authenticate a true Twin Flame connection. Only one’s inner voice–the clarity of their intuition–can confirm if they’ve found this type of connection or not.
Misconception #12: If my partner dies, it means they were not my Twin Flame
The Truth: There is a special wave of Twin Flames who experience the loss of their partner for a reason.
Sadly, there is no rule that your Twin Flame will live your as long as you do. Some Twin Flames experience the loss of their partner to deepen their awakening.
Twin flame partners are human, and as such, they are subject to death. This doesn’t mean that the journey is over. In fact, some believe that it’s only the beginning.
Twin flames are designed to teach us about connection and love at levels beyond the physical. When one twin flame dies, it can be a painful experience. However, it can also be an opportunity for the other twin flame to learn and grow.
The death of a twin flame can help us to let go of attachments to the physical world and to focus on the more important things in life, such as love and connection. It can also help us to develop our own inner strength and resilience.
If you have lost your twin flame, know that you are not alone. There are many people who have gone through this experience. There is hope for the future, and your journey together may not be over.
Erasing the Misconceptions
Twin flame relationships are complex and multifaceted, and there is no one-size-fits-all answer to the question of what they are or what they mean. However, by understanding some of the most common misconceptions and truths about twin flames, we can gain a better understanding of these deep and profound relationships.
If you think you may have met your twin flame, it is important to remember that the relationship will take time and effort to develop. There will be challenges along the way, but if you are both committed to the journey, it can be incredibly rewarding. Twin flames are meant to help each other grow and evolve, and they can teach us valuable lessons about ourselves and about love.
Here are some tips for navigating a twin flame relationship:
- Be patient and understanding. Twin flame relationships can be very challenging at times.
- Communicate openly and honestly with your twin flame.
- Be willing to forgive and to learn from your mistakes.
- Focus on your own personal growth and development.
- Trust the journey.
Twin flame relationships are a gift. If you are lucky enough to be in one, cherish it.
